Relationship Problem Advice ?- Don't Depend On Family And Friends
Where do you turn when you need relationship problem advice?
Well, there are several options available to you. You can do some research on the internet to find what you need to know or you can read a book.
If you don't find what you need there, you can find someone to talk to. There are therapists out there who specialize in relationships and the problems that can go along with them.
Usually when people find themselves with a relationship problem, before any of the above takes place, advice comes from friends and family.
This is a step taken by a lot of people (as misguided as it may be). When things start to go bad you tend to look to anyone and everyone for help and people you trust top that list.
Take the advice you get from friends and family with a grain of salt though, every situation is different and your situation is no exception. Advice you get from friends and family may not work for your situation and could confuse things even further.
Well, there are several options available to you. You can do some research on the internet to find what you need to know or you can read a book.
If you don't find what you need there, you can find someone to talk to. There are therapists out there who specialize in relationships and the problems that can go along with them.
Usually when people find themselves with a relationship problem, before any of the above takes place, advice comes from friends and family.
This is a step taken by a lot of people (as misguided as it may be). When things start to go bad you tend to look to anyone and everyone for help and people you trust top that list.
Take the advice you get from friends and family with a grain of salt though, every situation is different and your situation is no exception. Advice you get from friends and family may not work for your situation and could confuse things even further.
What you need
What you need at a time like this is straight forward, sound advice to help you figure out a bad situation. Trust your instincts when it comes to the advice you find on the internet and in books, too. If it doesn't sound good do not try to use it to fix things between you and your partner.
You need to go and get a copy of The Magic Of Making Up by T. W. Jackson.
In this book, Mr. Jackson will explain to you the various reasons why we fall out of love with our partners.
More importantly he shows you the techniques you can employ to get your groove back. It is never too late to try to rekindle the passion and love you felt for your partner.
You need to go and get a copy of The Magic Of Making Up by T. W. Jackson.
In this book, Mr. Jackson will explain to you the various reasons why we fall out of love with our partners.
More importantly he shows you the techniques you can employ to get your groove back. It is never too late to try to rekindle the passion and love you felt for your partner.
Learn how to communicate properly
So, what is the biggest reason why people have problems in their relationship? Lack of communication or lack of effective communication techniques.
People just do not know how to talk to each other. Good communication techniques can be learned and if you want to save your relationship you should do whatever it takes to learn them.
There are classes you can take at your local community college or you can go see that therapist and they can help you learn what to say and how to say it so your partner will listen and engage in the conversation.
Don't make fixing your relationship harder than it has to be. No one is born knowing how to be a good communicator.
The Magic Of Making Up will go through certain things like when you are trying to sort out a problem you should always use sentences starting with I rather than you.
"I feel hurt when you come home late from work" is a lot better than "you are always coming home late from work".
The first is explaining how you feel and should lead to a discussion about whether the working late can be fixed and if not, how you can work around it.
But the second sounds like an attack and if you deliver it just as the person walks through the door after a long day, it is easy to see how it can escalate into an argument.
When you learn to communicate effectively you can handle anything that comes up in your life including fixing your romantic relationship.
People just do not know how to talk to each other. Good communication techniques can be learned and if you want to save your relationship you should do whatever it takes to learn them.
There are classes you can take at your local community college or you can go see that therapist and they can help you learn what to say and how to say it so your partner will listen and engage in the conversation.
Don't make fixing your relationship harder than it has to be. No one is born knowing how to be a good communicator.
The Magic Of Making Up will go through certain things like when you are trying to sort out a problem you should always use sentences starting with I rather than you.
"I feel hurt when you come home late from work" is a lot better than "you are always coming home late from work".
The first is explaining how you feel and should lead to a discussion about whether the working late can be fixed and if not, how you can work around it.
But the second sounds like an attack and if you deliver it just as the person walks through the door after a long day, it is easy to see how it can escalate into an argument.
When you learn to communicate effectively you can handle anything that comes up in your life including fixing your romantic relationship.
Without communication
When there is no communication, something that started out to be a small misunderstanding could easily be blown out of proportion and become the thing that destroys a once good relationship.
Often we say things in the heat of the moment that either aren't true or are an exaggeration of how we are really feeling.
It is so easy to fall into a dynamic that is unhealthy in your relationship due to ineffective communication. Once the dynamic changes in your relationship it is not so easy to change it back and your relationship may never be the same even if you do learn the right things to do.
You need to go and get a copy of The Magic Of Making Up by T. W. Jackson.
Often we say things in the heat of the moment that either aren't true or are an exaggeration of how we are really feeling.
It is so easy to fall into a dynamic that is unhealthy in your relationship due to ineffective communication. Once the dynamic changes in your relationship it is not so easy to change it back and your relationship may never be the same even if you do learn the right things to do.
You need to go and get a copy of The Magic Of Making Up by T. W. Jackson.
"T Dub" Discovers His "Love Recipe"
Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it's a long story…you can just call me "T Dub".
I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I'll tell you why in a second…
I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age.
Because of my life long military experience I've had dozens of homes…in 11 countries... and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.
And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE.
I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas "redneck" buddy of mine…makes no difference…
More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them "tick" and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.
In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the "go to" guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of "people problem"…I kind of felt like the male version of "Dear Abby"...
Maybe you even know someone a little like me?...someone that you go to when you have "people problems"…
Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.
WARNING: Unconventional Methods!
At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT... And next thing you know... he's back home, laying back on the couch and watching HOUSE with his fiance on Monday nights.
Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don't believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…
I mean, what's a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy's girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivys out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?
I don't know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.
Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have "relationship troubles" too? If you do…I think I can help…
Please allow me to introduce myself…My name is T.W. Jackson, I know kinda weird…it's a long story…you can just call me "T Dub".
I want to say right off the bat, that I am not a psychologist, doctor or some relationship guru…In fact I royally piss off the academic types and I'll tell you why in a second…
I have been a military brat…or in the military for a majority of my life. In fact I joined the US Navy when I was a ripe old 17 years of age.
Because of my life long military experience I've had dozens of homes…in 11 countries... and lived long term in 5 states in the U.S.
And because I have lived in so many places and changed schools so often as a kid…I had to learn…and learn REALLY FAST…how to get along with people. And people from ALL WALKS OF LIFE.
I can sit down and have some sake with my friend in Tokyo…or pop open a can of suds and fish Lake Dardanelle with an Arkansas "redneck" buddy of mine…makes no difference…
More importantly…I became really good at reading people, understanding what makes them "tick" and even got to a point where I could influence their behavior and actions.
In fact, I got quite good at doing this, so good in fact that I was the "go to" guy whenever my friends had just about any kind of "people problem"…I kind of felt like the male version of "Dear Abby"...
Maybe you even know someone a little like me?...someone that you go to when you have "people problems"…
Anyway…I got a ton of practice keeping relationships together…and putting them back together after they had come apart…because the divorce rate for military couples is MUCH HIGHER than average.
WARNING: Unconventional Methods!
At this point, I must WARN YOU…STRONGLY WARN YOU…my advice and methods are VERY unconventional. I get relationship counselors and the like REALLY ANGRY because they are charging $50 to $100 an hour (sometimes for months and even years) and I can whisper just one of my methods in my friends ear…he DOES IT... And next thing you know... he's back home, laying back on the couch and watching HOUSE with his fiance on Monday nights.
Now you are free to make up your own mind about me. I just don't believe that any amount of sitting in a classroom can make up for the REAL WORLD experience that I have under my belt…
I mean, what's a more valuable experience?…Listening to a lecture on libido? Or BEING THERE when my buddy's girlfriend is chucking his clothes and skivys out the bedroom window because she thinks he was with some tart the night before?
I don't know about you, my money is on the guy with the real world experience any day.
Now, if you are hanging out with me here today, I am guessing you have "relationship troubles" too? If you do…I think I can help…